Photographer Captures Quarantine Life With His Mom and Ex-Wife | My Modern Met

By Sara Barnes on January 13, 2021

Day 12: Tensions are already rising.

“Sometimes, the behind-the-scenes was more dramatic than the actual results.”


The pandemic has brought together people who, not wanting to be alone, have chosen to unite in quarantine. Those who haven’t lived with each other in decades have suddenly been thrust into this type of always-together housing situation. Photographer Neil Kramer is one person experiencing the phenomenon in the comfort of his compact two-bedroom, one-bathroom apartment in Queens, New York. For nearly a year, his ex-wife and mother have been living with him—for better or worse. To chronicle this strange time, Kramer has taken photos that are humorous reenactments of real-life situations that have happened called Quarantine in Queens. The images are relatable for anyone who feels like they’ve been cooped up for too long with loved ones.

So, how did this quarantine crew form in the first place? It was kismet, of sorts. Kramer’s mom usually heads to Florida for the winter, but her plans fell through so she had asked to stay with him. At the same time, his ex-wife (who lived in California) had her apartment destroyed by a leaky roof and had also asked to crash with Kramer. What was supposed to be a few weeks has turned into a year.


“Before the pandemic, I mostly shot street photography, but when I found myself hunkered down at home with my mother and ex-wife, I felt the need to document it,” Kramer explains to My Modern Met. “At first I wanted to shoot our experience journalistically, but we were all so busy doing things like scrubbing down our groceries with Lysol that it wasn’t working, so I decided we would take our real experiences and recreate them the next day in a photo. Most of them started coming out rather humorous, which I think was a coping mechanism. The photographs became a way to process our anxiety, almost like self-therapy.”

Day 26: A Facebook friend recommended a gentle bubble bath as a great way to relieve stress during a lockdown in my one bathroom apartment in Queens. Not sure the plan worked.


The day-to-day grind can feel monotonous, but Kramer’s series has proven a nice way to break up the tedium. Living together, however, hasn’t been without its challenges needing resolve. “At first, my mother and ex-wife were happy to participate, being familiar with my weird artsy personality. But as the project took off on Instagram, they both became a little more self-conscious. We had quite a number of discussions whether we should portray ourselves as we looked during a pandemic, which is usually not our best, or actually comb our hair.”

The two women turned out to be great collaborators. “I really owe this project to my mother and Sophia, who were great sports, although sometimes I had to bribe them with donuts or promise to wash the dishes for a week. I embraced collaboration more than I ever did before. We looked at the photos from each shoot together, and they had a say on what would be published or not.”

Living in a small New York City apartment has its share of logistical challenges when snapping photographs. The space is dark which requires Kramer to use speed lights and a wide-angle lens in order to get everyone in the frame. And then there’s the actual shooting of the image. “Sometimes, the behind-the-scenes was more dramatic than the actual results,” he shares. “One of the most popular photos involved me in a bathtub while my mother and ex-wife interrupted me. We laugh now that it became a popular photo because the shooting of it was the worst experience. We were trapped in a tiny bathroom along with a tripod in front of us, a light stand in the corner, the laptop sitting precariously on the toilet, and my mother freaking out that the light would fall into the bathtub filled with water and electrocute us. We took maybe four shots and then called it a day.”

Art is imitating life, and Kramer’s more recent photographs reflect the fatigue we’re all feeling from COVID-19.[…]

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